Being bed-ridden for the past 48 hours has made me think about something that’s been playing on my mind for the past few weeks. I have come to realise that there are a great many similarities between hate and love. It sounds strange, however every single time I go on twitter or instagram I see so many individuals adamant to cause destruction, pain and upset. I see girls as young as 13 telling others to self-harm, even kill themselves. I see people desperate to unpick a person’s stability; they find any shred of insecurity within a person and play on it. I see people who actively seek confrontation- people who can’t accept the fact that people are allowed to like more than one band.
I view these people, not with anger, but with sadness; I pity the ignorance that appears to cloak the world of social media. I worry for the innocence of young teenagers who will soon enter this world of deceit and quarrel. I worry for my younger sister, who knows nothing of this hatred. However, what amazes me the most here is that this negative notion could so easily be adjusted into something positive.
The attributes present in a hateful relationship are as necessary in a loving one. For example, these hateful people are determined- determined to bring someone down. Love requires determination in order to develop and flourish; you must be determined to break the restrains around you and be with someone you love. Desperation- I see people desperate to provoke a reaction, desperate to source that inner misery when searching for insecurities within others. I believe that desperation has a role in love- the notion of one acting in ‘rash or extreme behaviour’ should be present in love, because love does not know restrain, nor does it know time. Love knows when to go all in, regardless of what may be ‘right’ or ‘wrong’.
You see, when comparing love and hate, it’s not hard to recognise similarities- both require intense emotion; in fact, they share the same emotions entirely, it is simply down to us to adhere to what they are telling us. This has led to question why do we focus so heavily on the negatives on social media? - why do we argue about bands, hair, songs, girls, boys? … this will never result in solitude. Why don’t we use the very same emotions in a constructive way, making something beautiful?
Sadly, the brain gives more attention to negative more than positive. We pick out things in other people that we hope in ourselves. We get sort of envious, so we degrade them. It’s almost a jealously issue. When we see someone who has their life together, has what we don’t have, their dreams are coming true, etc. our tendencies are to get jealous and say negative things about them. And because it’s over social media, there isn’t that face to face action and we tend to be CYBERbullies, because they can’t hurt us?? It’s just a screen. People on social media spend too much time being negative towards people they want to be and not actually going out and pursing their own dreams and making something of themselves. People need to turn the negative into positive. People need to put as much Energy as they do being rude and negative and jealous into being nice and kind and positive and being grateful. That’s when they can truly pursue their dreams.
Thermochromic table by Jay Watson
imagine banging someone on that table
imagine being home alone and seeing imprints on that table
Imagine having a friend sit at that table for a long while, but when they get up there’s no imprints at all.
What if you got up after trying to console a crying friend, and found that you had no imprints… and they were crying because they missed you?
This went from being inappropriate, to being scary an to just being something sad…
no anna, i dont think about it because slamming my head into my keyboard several times is less painful than thinking about it.
#little harry gladly doing extra chores and making sure everything is done perfectly #so that they may see what a good boy he is and maybe forgive him #hat not working and harry trying to give petunia gifts #giving her a bouquet of flowers he picked himself #and face falling when she frowns at it and calls it a bunch of weeds #he’ll pick it out of the trash later and keep the flowers until they’re crumbling in his little room #but he keeps trying until he’s old enough to realize its not going to work #that he’s always going to be punished and he wont know why #but if he knows he’s done something wrong worth eternal punishment then he must think he’s not worth much and internalizes it #so harry ends up putting his life before others because of it #”no dont come with me i’ll do it on my own” because harry doesnt think his life is worth anything anyway #a hero complex paired with very little self worth #thinking that all these corpses around him are just more punishment #thinking he’d rather it be him voldemort was after than anyone else #thinking ”of course its me who has to walk into the forest and into my grave” #of course he does it #he was raised for it (x)
always running head first into danger bc honestly what worse can happen anyway #and agreeing to live with sirius without a second thought #even tho he wanted to kill him with his bare hands minutes ago #but it won’t be dursleys #maybe sirius will love him #maybe sirius will make him pancakes in the morning #maybe sirius will smile at him across the table
This is a great, unique little tool I found by browsing for writing resources. It’s name speaks for itself: it’s a synonym finder.
The site is clean cut, has soothing colors, and to-the point results for any word you look up.
For example, when I look up the word “romance,” I get this:
Synonyms: romance, romanticism
Definition: an exciting and mysterious quality (as of a heroic time or adventure)
Definition: an essential and distinguishing attribute of something or someone
Usage: the quality of mercy is not strained—Shakespeare”
I had no idea what a “hypernym” is. Apparently it’s a word with a more general meaning that a more specific word fall under. Like, color is a hypernym for green.
On the right corner there’s a button to make graphs! So you can trace each synonym from it’s root word, and see how far the other synonyms connect in comparison to others.
I really like it, so I’m going to definitely bookmark it on my writing tools list.
If you’re mad at her, you don’t understand it. White people are trying to remove themselves from all people of color. Let me show you why this is true. You’ve heard of Asian-americans or African Americans or Mexican Americans. But how about a European American? Have you ever heard someone say they’re Canadian American? or European American? Probably not. White people can just call themselves American, even if their ancestry has not been in America for long. If your great-grandparents moved because of the potato famine, you don’t call yourselves Irish American, you have lived your entire life in the United States, you call yourself an American. But now, take someone whose ancestry is linked to some of the first slaves in the colonies, and they still call themselves African-American. Doesn’t matter if they’ve never stepped foot on the continent and share no cultural link, other than pigment, with any society in Africa, they still have to identify with African.
What’s most infuriating is that even people who are the ultimate Americans: Native Americans. They were in the Americas while ass backwards Europe was accusing (and burning) women of being witches. THEY, of all people, shouldn’t have to specify their identity as an American, but NO they have to be labeled with something else.
Raven Symone is an absolute star. She has my total respect for standing up like this, and I hope her so much happiness with her girlfriend. I wish she was still on television, she taught me so much , even if it was all from a disney show
This has to be my favourite thing.